The Journal
No scripts, no tactics, no performance. Essays on meeting people, first dates, and the patterns that keep repeating.
14 August 2026 · 8 min read
Rates run from £50 to £500 an hour and almost nobody publishes them. Here is what dating coaching actually costs in the UK, tier by tier, and what you should get for it.
Read the article14 August 2026 · 7 min read
Three professions, one confused market. A straight comparison of what a dating coach, a relationship coach and a therapist do — and a single question that tells you which you need.
Read the article12 August 2026 · 9 min read + worksheets
Five one-page worksheets that treat your dating life as a design problem instead of a lottery. Free printable PDF — no email, no sign-up.
Read the article7 August 2026 · 8 min read
You have changed the photos, paid for the upgrade, deleted and reinstalled. The problem usually is not your profile — it is treating a directory as a dating life.
Read the article5 August 2026 · 8 min read
You have the career, the flat, the friends. So why is this the one part of life that has not arrived? Five honest reasons — and the one to work on first.
Read the article31 July 2026 · 7 min read + worksheet
Six exercises, fifteen minutes each, filled in on the page and saved in your browser. It ends with a dated plan for the next fortnight — not another article you agree with and forget.
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26 July 2026 · 9 min read
You do not need lines, routines or a persona. You need a life with more people in it, and the ability to say something ordinary without flinching. Here is how that actually works.
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26 July 2026 · 8 min read
Not pickup, not therapy. An honest look at what a dating coach does, the five signs it would help you, and the cases where you should save your money.
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26 July 2026 · 8 min read
The apps are not broken for you personally — they are built to keep you swiping. Here is why they exhaust ambitious men, and the three-channel approach that works better.
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29 July 2026 · 8 min read
A first date at 45 is not a first date at 25, and trying to run it the same way is why so many of them feel like interviews. Here is a better format.
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29 July 2026 · 8 min read
You can run a department and still feel fifteen years old in a bar. That gap is not a character flaw — it is a skill you have never practised. Here is how it is built.
Read the article5 August 2026 · 9 min read
Most dating advice for men is either childish or cynical. Here is what actually works for professional men worldwide in their 30s, 40s and 50s.
Read the article12 August 2026 · 8 min read
Rehearsed lines feel like acting because they are. Here is how to start a conversation with a woman using ordinary words, in ordinary places, as yourself.
Read the article1 September 2026 · 8 min read
Relationships are not built on grand gestures. They are built on small, consistent habits most men were never taught. Here is the non-dramatic guide.
Read the article1 September 2026 · 9 min read
You are back in a market you last saw a decade or two ago, carrying a history you did not plan on. Here is how to start again without repeating the marriage you left.
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